Our life is so completely wrapped up in irrational fantasies that they provide the motivation for whatever we do – good and evil. Watch the mind very carefully and you will see this. If you love me you do all sorts of things and you are prepared to undergo any amount of privation, suffering and expense. You love me because you think I am your friend or your brother. That relationship – my so and so, whatever it may be – makes you do all sorts of good things. This is a reason why this irrational, stupid idea of a relationship is very jealously guarded and maintained by society.
But the unfortunate factor is that it is not goodness alone that flows out of this ‘mine’. You care only for people whom you regard as ‘my’ people. Are these people really mine? How does this ‘mineness’ arise? How does this relationship arise? Are these relationships based on reality, truth? The strangest part of it is that they are there as long as you accept that they are there. This ‘mineness’ is a nightmare or a sweet dream, it doesn’t matter which way you look at it. But please also remember that while you are enjoying a sweet dream you are inviting a nightmare, because they both belong to the same family.
There is only one way to avoid both of these, and that is that you must wake up. The moment you wake up from this ignorance and begin to enquire into it, the mineness goes away. ‘I am’ is there and ‘you are’ is also there. We are not running away from that. There is a body here, there is a body there, but we don’t possess each other.
We are both equally important, so I don’t have to torture myself in order to do something good to you and you don’t have to torture yourself in order to do some good to me. That is a beautiful life where we love and respect one another without possessing one another, when we realise that possession does not exist. There is no martyrdom and there is no greed. If goodness does not need the motivation of possession, then it is free, true goodness. Virtue which is free from compulsion is true virtue.
Is it possible to free goodness from this sense of possession, and in that freedom cultivate goodness?